If you ask any rock climbers what the most difficult part of this sport is, you might get different answers. For me, the most difficult part is not mastering the techniques nor dealing with the fear but to find a steady partner.
It sucks that rock climbing is something you can’t do by yourself. So in order to find someone to climb with, I pretty much did all the marketing work I could do to advertise myself. I didn’t even need to try that hard to find a guy.
Initially, I didn’t have any problems finding people to respond to my Ad. But once I started to climb with them and tried to make plans to climb every week, everybody became a no show like a lousy boyfriend. Most of people just won’t climb every other day. Period. I kept on placing comments and ads on websites to try my luck. Finally, a guy named Rick agreed to climb. And amazingly, he stuck around. Not only he stuck around, we expanded the team together by dragging a few more guys from work and absorbing a few more single lonely climbers from the gym into the group. Without making plans, everybody started to show up routinely on every Tuesdays and Thursdays. At one point, I had 8 climbing partners. I was the happiest climber on the planet at that time cuz I never need to worry about belayer shortage.
Happy time didn’t last long. My once rock solid climbing team started to collapse just a few weeks ago. Some left town, some had family issues and some are stuck at work. Even my most reliable original partner Rick is bailing the walls for the dancing floors. He tried to convert me to a salsa dancer too. But I still have the hots for the cold rocks.
Today is Tuesday, I went to the climbing gym as usual only finding myself standing in the middle of the gym with no belayer. Boy, this world changes fast… I don’t usually hit on guys. But I find myself in a situation that I just had to if I wanted a belayer. “Hey!..” “Hi… Do you have a partner? Oh, you do…sorry…” I started to feel embarrassed. Finally, a nice guy named Stan whom I climbed with long time ago recognized me and offered a hand.
Ok, I lucked out today but what about this coming Thursday? The guy I found on the Internet hasn’t responded yet. It’s funny that in the dating scenes, guys are usually the ones who have to knock on every girl’s E-door and sometimes have to face rejections.. In the climbing world, I find myself, a not-so-bad-but-not-so-good climber who demands multipe climbs a week is having tremendous amount of trouble finding a “rock date”.
My friends mountaincurmudgeon and Chalk Abuser have been steady climbing partners for years. They are lucky to be each other’s “Prince Charming” on the rock. I wish one day I can find my own “Harness Abuser” to climb peak after peak with me. For now, I am searching more sites and typing up more Ads…
There is not much choice other than keep trying and keep hoping when it comes to finding a partner. I guess the principle applies to any kind of partner such as mating, life long sharing and even rock climbing.